Tuesday, September 12, 2006

Life is all about relationships.



The ties that bind... blood is thicker than water... two are better than one, even three is far better, the reward for their labour is immeasurable... together we stand, divided we fall... all wonderful quotes reflecting the power in relationships.

Where would you be without the people in your life? I'm thinking about all the relationships the average person has got going... parents, siblings, relatives, school buddies, friends, co- workers, business partners etc, and the list goes on... what impact have they had in your life? ditto, what impact have you had in their lives? quite a thought isn't it?

Everyone one of us has a purpose and we need each other to achieve them. We've been called to live an "interdependent life" not an independent or dependent one. I need you, you need me, and that's what makes the world go round. Building bridges must be a lifestyle. We must all learn to constantly build our reserve of goodwill in others, no matter their station in life because anyone can be relevant to you at any time. You may not need a another person's help right now but many years down the line, you would wish you had made a connection of some sort; one advice- make constant deposits into as many emotional bank accounts as you can so you will always be in surplus.

I can think of many times when I got stuck in a rut and it was an old friend/ acquaintance who bailed me out. I particularly remember once when I was going to Kano city on some small business from Potiskum in Yobe and I got there quite late. Didn't know anyone and didn't have anywhere to sleep, then along comes this guy who obviously knows me and I can't remember him from Adam! Apparently, I'd met him during one of my "Ajala travels" to Gombe city. To cut a long story short, he was my deliverer for the day. I spent the night at his house and made it to the market bright and early the next day. Sadly, I've lost touch with him...

It really doesn't cost much to build relationships, me thinks it takes just a listening ear, an available heart and a longing to see the good in all. Yes, we get bitten once in a while but we shouldn't allow those times to dissuade us from building bridges with others. No one is perfect so never expect any human to be the all in all for you... look upwards for that.

And you know what? the greatest relationship you can ever have is with your creator. He is faithful to the core; He will never dissapoint you; He'll always exceed your expectations and He'll always be there for you come rain, come shine. Keeping this particular relationship alive is of utmost importance. You must constantly keep the fire burning communing with God in your own way for it is the strength you draw from Him that'll keep you going, empowering you to meet your needs and those of others.

Life is really all about relationships... yours and mine, his and hers, theirs and ours.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

you have very rightly hit the nail on the head. Much more than that, you drew out some pointers that we overlook.
The value of building relationships and network can not be over-emphasized. But then, it means the onus is on us to handle very precarious opportunities for building relationships when we are not in the mood or those times we are grouchy.
Ayo George

Anonymous said...

Sweetheart, you are very right.sometimes we tend to take things that happen to us personal,forgetting the fact that life is not all perfect so also the people in it.and so we have to be more flexible,friendly and forggiven as we journey through life.Thanks again dear somethings are now more clear to me in your write up.
have a lovely day.
Aramide dauda.

Anonymous said...

your words are touching cos it reminds me a lot of the people i have missed and would have loved to keep in touch with.most times one goes to the extrem in order to keep a friend and its not just worth it or its not working

@biola.com said...

The one thing that I hold very sacred and which i attach serious commitment to is friendship.

Friends should be carefully chosen because they may make or mar becos of this this my friends are few.

But if i did not have friends, loved ones, well wishers, fans, mentors, protogees etc life for me would have been miserabe.

I owe a lot to these very few yet faithful ones. I try my best to live up to the standard that makes the feeling mutual

Let me end with this "It's good to be good on your way up so that you will find people to help you on your way back down" you might want to say you will not come back down but... "What goes up must come" It a law of life.

cheers
@biola.com
NB; I really enjoyed reading this